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The Ugly Truth

26 Feb

When you fell in love, what was it like? Or, what do you think it will be like to fall in love?  Did you imagine their touch, their eyes, or listening to their heartbeat? Do you fantasize about your wedding day, what you’ll wear and the song you’ll dance to? Have you picked your house, how many kids you will have and where you’ll vacation? What do you see? Do you see being sued because you produced the ugliest children your spouse could have imagined? Are you still feeling swept off your feet?

Scrolling through Facebook, I came across a shared story that was covered by Fox news. The title read “Dad Sues Wife over Ugly Kids.” I thought it was a parody or hoax but as I read the content, I came to the realization that it was “The Ugly Truth.” For those of you unfamiliar with the story, Jian Feng filed a lawsuit against his wife after she gave birth to “an extremely ugly” baby girl. According to Fox News, Feng’s wife was ordered to pay him $120,000 on the grounds of false pretenses. Allegedly, Feng’s wife had undergone over $100,000 worth of cosmetic surgery before they met. He was under the impression that she tricked him with her looks and demanded a DNA test for their baby because there was “no possible way” he could have produced such an ugly child. The DNA test came back with Feng being the biological father but the judge ruled in his favor any way. “Our daughter was incredibly ugly, to the point where it horrified me.” Feng said. Sheesh, talk about family ties, right?

Every child wants the approval of their parents. Every child wants their parents to think they are nothing short of amazing. It’s a parent’s job to build their child’s character, personality, and self-esteem as the first people they encounter in life. Jian Feng was so concerned about his image and feelings of “deceit” that he, more than likely, did not think about what this would do to his daughter.  She will now grow up self-conscious, unsure of herself and resentment toward her father. Beauty is only skin deep. You could have the prettiest face with the tightest body and the ugliest spirit, which would make you equally unattractive. Where was the logic? Was this thought out? Did the Judge think this was a justified reason for a profitable lawsuit? Was $120,000 worth a family’s reputation and a child’s frame of mind? How can you move on after this?

You’re welcome for the memo,

Candace Ray